G-spot orgasms are often considered the ‘holy grail’ of vaginal pleasure because of their rarity (and some would argue, greater intensity). It’s easy to see why they’ve gained this status when only 65 per cent of women usually or always orgasm during heterosexual sex, compared with 95 per cent of men. This means around one in three women go orgasm-less during penetration. However, the sexual response cycle is complex, with many factors influencing if, when and how individuals orgasm. There are physical, emotional and relationship factors at play, along with social, cultural and spiritual dimensions. Nevertheless, why are some bodies more orgasmic with vaginal penetration than others? Various explanations for this have been proposed over the years, and there’s strong evidence the clitoris is involved.

Despite the still-popular belief that the clitoris is external, the G-spot is internal, and the two are separate, the reality is these features are most likely connected.

It all started with Ernst Gräfenberg, a gynaecologist who was concerned about how often his female clients didn’t orgasm during sex - He thought the problem related to an area a few centimetres inside the vagina, on the belly side, where erectile tissue surrounded the female urethra and moved and swelled with arousal. Years later, sexologist Beverly Whipple, also found an area that was similarly located in the vagina and swelled with pleasure. She named it the Gräfenberg spot (now called the G-spot) in of honour Ernst. So, hit the spot, then abracadabra, orgasm? Not quite. It turns out that they key to the so-called G-spot orgasm is probably the clitoris. More than a nub at the top of the vulva, the clitoris resembles a chicken wishbone, with two legs or ‘bulbs’ that wrap around the vaginal walls.

Start from the outside

Given the anatomical connection between the clitoris and G-spot, an effective way to encourage a vaginal orgasm is to start by stimulating your vulva with a high-quality sex toy. For example, ‘warm up’ your clitoris with SVAKOM’s Tulip Bullet Vibrator, gliding its rounded head or ribbed shaft over your vulva, before progressing towards your external clitoris. When your arousal levels increase, then try vaginal penetration with a G-spot vibrator.

Work your way inside

When you’re ready to target your G-spot with a vibrator, ensure it is designed for the task usually because of a precisely angled head. It should suit your needs and preferences too. For example, do you want a vibrator that is firm or flexible, slim or girthy, smooth or textured? SVAKOM’s Cici Slim G-Spot Vibrator is perfect for beginners and those who are resuming sexual activity after a break or experiencing menopause thanks to its slim, flexible shaft. For something with more girth, try the Iris G-Spot Vibrator or if prefer less texture, go for the Amy 2 Flexible G-Spot Vibrator. Another option is to use a rabbit vibrator, which stimulates both your clitoris and G-Spot. SVAKOM’s Trysta Rabbit Vibrator targets your G-spot with a rolling ball in the head of the shaft, while the Aylin Rabbit Vibrator does so with pulsations.

Aim for pleasure

As you pursue a G-spot orgasm, whether during masturbation or vaginal sex, remind yourself that this takes patience and skill. Make time to explore and understand your unique body. It can also be helpful to think of pleasure, not orgasm, as your goal. So if you feel frustrated about not climaxing, remember that as long as you are experiencing pleasure then you are achieving your goal.

Finally, consider the bigger picture. Pleasure and orgasms are often influenced by our brain more than our genitals. Consider, for example, whether you have more turn ons than turn offs, taking into account your thoughts, emotions, relationships and other areas of your life. In some cases, it might be worth seeking help from a sexuality or medical professional if you feel unable to experience the pleasure you want.

Go for it

Ultimately, sexual pleasure is yours to define and explore in your own way. Whether you want to focus on your G-spot, clitoris or another erogenous zones, a high-quality sex toy can be your perfect ally.